How does your partner act when it comes to taking the relationship to the next level? *They sometimes want to move faster than I do, but they back off if I seem unsure.They make sure we’re both cool with things and don’t rush anything.They push for things to get serious fast and make me feel bad if I’m not ready.Q1How does your partner handle things like privacy—like going through your phone or asking for your passwords? *They’ve asked to see my phone or messages a few times, but say it’s just because they care.They go through my phone, demand my passwords, or get mad if I don’t share everything.They respect my privacy and trust me without needing to check up on me.Q2What happens when you’re excited about something—like a goal, hobby, or friendship—you want to share? *They’re genuinely happy for me and cheer me on.They act supportive at first, but sometimes make little comments that make me doubt myself.They put it down, say it’s a waste of time, or try to talk me out of it.Q3How does your partner act when you want to do your own thing? *They totally get it and support me having my own time and interests.They don’t like it at all and try to make me feel guilty or stop me from doing things without them.They say they understand, but get kind of moody or make me feel bad when I’m not with them.Q4What does your partner do when you say “no” to something? *They say it’s okay, but act upset or distant afterward.They try to guilt me, get mad, or make me feel like I’m doing something wrong.They respect my decision without making a big deal about it.Q5What happens when you and your partner make plans or decisions? *Most of the time, my partner decides everything, and I feel like my thoughts don’t count.We both listen to each other and make choices together that work for both of us.Sometimes I feel like my opinion matters less, but I usually go along with what they want.Q6How does your partner usually talk to you when you make a mistake or mess up? *They are understanding and kind, and help me feel better.They often make fun of me or say things that make me feel bad about myself.Sometimes they joke about it, but it can feel a little hurtful or annoying.Q7If something goes wrong between you and your partner, how do they usually handle it? *They usually blame me or ignore the problem instead of trying to make things better.Sometimes they admit their mistakes, but other times they blame me or avoid the issue.They take responsibility for their part and work with me to fix it.Q8When you and your partner disagree or argue, how do they usually handle it? *Sometimes they get upset and say things to hurt me, but we usually make up after.They talk openly and respectfully, trying to understand my point of view.They use guilt, threats, or try to control me to get their way during fights.Q9How does your relationship feel most of the time when you’re hanging out or having fun together? *It’s mostly fun, but sometimes things get tense or we have sudden arguments.It often feels unpredictable or stressful, with mood swings or fights interrupting good times.We laugh, enjoy each other’s company, and feel relaxed.Q10Score 0-6There are some red flags in your relationship. It’s never ok for your partner to make you feel humiliated, ashamed, scared or pressured into doing things you don’t want to. Safer may be able to support you so e-mail AskBe for advice.Score 7-13There may be a few areas to work on in your relationship. A little more communication or respecting each other’s space could go a long way! Try to stay calm and address the problems, also consider taking some time apart from each other. Visit the BeSmart section to learn more.Score 14-20You’re in a healthy relationship. There’s trust, respect and good communication and both of you are lifting each other up. Keep doing what you’re doing. If you’re worried about a certain area of your relationship visit BeSmart.CalculationsGet my result
